You should never turn off your self-critic, but there are times when you need to turn its volume down.
According to business coach Meredith Bell’s blog Your Voice of Encouragement, too much self-criticim can kill your self-esteem.
If you’re like me, you have this inner critic that’s constantly chattering in the background during the course of a day. It criticizes what you’ve done or haven’t done, it finds fault with the way you look and it judges what kind of parent or spouse, friend, family member or co-worker that you are.
I can back her up on that. Constantly fighting yourself can kill your motivation, your performance at work and your energy levels, not mention your happiness. What’s worse, the dreary days of winter only exacerbate these feelings of worthlessness.
Finding a way to “turn the tables on this negative self talk and focus it instead on what you’ve accomplished,” as Bell puts it, is important. “It would make a huge difference in the way you see yourself, what you ended up trying in different parts of your life and, eventually, the results that you get,” she adds.
Luckily, Bell has just what the doctor ordered – writing a “victory log”.
A victory log is nothing more than a list 50 accomplishments that you’re proud of. The sizes of these accomplishments doesn’t matter here, advises Bell. “They don’t have to be things where you come out as the hero, they don’t have to be really huge things, but they’re things that, when you think about them, you feel happy and proud of what you’ve done.”
The key to this list of accomplishments is to review it at least twice a day to help counteract negative self-talk. It sounds simple but, according to Bell, it works:
Did you know that this process alone – creating a victory list and then reading it twice a day – has been shown to increase self-esteem more than any other activity? Think about that. If you’ll take time to make this list, it can have a huge impact
on the way you see yourself and the way you live your life.
I’m not one for fast and easy fixes. That being said, I’ve tried writing a victory log, as well as a daily version listing my accomplishments for the day, and they both work. They may not fix your problems, but they do fix the symptoms so that you have the energy to work on the problems. Both the video and the blog post are worth your time.
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